Overcoming Challenges – Written by Kim Denton Owner/Salon Coach

As much as I like to inspire others, I honestly think this blog is meant for me this time…

Maintaining inspiration and hope while leading others can be challenging. Sometimes life seems to be going along great – your mindset is good, you’re killing it in your career and your family life is the happiest it has ever been. Then life throws you a curveball and your whole world comes to a halt. During these times you may find yourself on your knees asking what happened and of course “why me?”.

As a business coach who leads a salon team and deals with clients on a daily basis, people are counting on me and sometimes I’m not at my 100%. Fake it till you make it right? Well, truth be known, faking it is hard and running away sometimes seems like a good idea.

So how do we pull ourselves out of this funk and become 100% again? Below are a few techniques I would like to share with you.

Recognize Your Emotions & Live In The Moment

One thing I’ve learned is that it’s ok to give yourself time to feel. Whether it’s 24 hours or even a couple of days. It’s important to allow yourself time to sort it out and ask yourself questions like: “What do I need?”, and “Where are these feelings of fear, heartache, hurt, disappointment, etc., coming from?”. However, after an allotted amount of time, it’s just as important to move forward.

Celebrate Wins

Celebrate? Yes! The best way to get out of a funk is to celebrate. Even if all you’re celebrating is getting out of bed. Celebrate it and be grateful! Sometimes when we feel the world is against us it’s also important to make a daily gratitude list to help remind us of what we have and what we’ve already accomplished. Doing so will help boost our mindset.

Keep Your Routine Strong

Routine is so important. You have to keep moving forward with your routine because during times when life hits you hard your self-concept can get jaded. It’s easy to fall into behaviors that are not good and can be very harmful to your long or short-term goals.

React Or Respond

During a struggle, a lot of questions will come up. How we react or respond to these questions is very important. It’s important to keep in mind that reactions are usually based on emotions and when our emotions are high, our intelligence is low. While recognizing your emotions is important, it can be dangerous to stay there. We have a choice to respond to questions in a good way or a bad way.

Have Faith

No matter what you believe, you have to have faith. We may never be ok with life’s results but we have to believe we will get through this and we will come out stronger with more wisdom than we had before. Without a storm, we would never appreciate the sunshine. Remember, each of us has a life story – a beginning and an end – and what happens in between these two points is all up to us and how we perceive it.

Getting Results – Written by Kim Denton Owner/Salon Coach

Lately, the biggest question I get these days is how I got where I am in just the past year (dropping 55lbs and starting a new found career). Believe me, it wasn’t easy. On your way up there is always people who want to keep you down. What I do know is this – setting goals is key and keeping them is even more important. Your biggest accountability is to yourself! No one else can help change you or get you the results you want.

So let’s take a look at what results look like… Results are consequences. They are the effect or outcome of our actions. If you want to lose weight or get a job promotion, or even become a superstar, you have to visualize what you want and ask yourself how you are going to get there.

The very first thing to work on is changing our behavior. Behavior is either physical or mental. If you want to be at the top of an organization or want to lose weight like 75% of the population, you have to start behaving like the person you visualize. It is my personal belief that this is why people lose interest in their goals because changing your behavior is one of the hardest things to do.

So to change our behavior, we have to change our mindset. Mindset plays an interesting part in our behavior. How we think is usually how we behave. The best thing I ever did was take the Little Voice Mastery program by Blair Singer (coached by Jason Everett). This program inspired me so much that I became a business coach for LVM and utilize the concepts I’ve learned in my own salon. If you want to see gains you have to change your mindset (see my blog on success).

In order to reach your goals, it’s also just as important to change your attitude and leave the negative behind you. Yes; whoever or whatever, it’s time to say goodbye and stay on track. You will get some slack when you are on your way up, but you will also find people who cheer you on and/or get inspired by what you have done for yourself. I always tell my clients to make daily goals and a gratitude list in the morning while celebrating wins throughout the day. As you continue on your journey, your momentum will get stronger, and your fan club will get bigger in the process. Your energy and positive attitude will be contagious!

Now remember the negative part? The reason why it’s so important to put the negative behind you is because of your belief system. What you believe to be true will affect your attitude about yourself. If you believe that you will never reach your goals, or that it’s to hard, or it’s just not the right time, this belief system will kill your attitude faster than anything. Positive thinking all the way! Change that attitude to a 70 °,sunshiny day. No day is a bad day! At least that is what we say at unDONE Salon.

Last of all divide your self-concept into the following three categories:

  • Your Image – How do you see yourself everyday?
  • Your Ideals – Who do you inspire to be and look up to?
  • Self Esteem – How much do you love and like yourself?

In order to get the results that we truly want, it’s these three things that will affect how we feel, see and what we aspire to be. Remember, your results will never exceed your self-concept. Keep your eye on the ball, and keep believing in yourself!